Healthy Relationship Tip – Pickles Or Ice Cream?
When things don’t go right, especially when it’s one thing after another after another, it’s easy to get into a bad mood. Sometimes things don’t go right for such a long time, the bad mood becomes a habit that harms your relationship. How can you kick the bad mood habit and get back to a healthy relationship?
Once upon a time you were a fun date. You and your man laughed over small things, enjoyed each other’s company, and shared in jokes only the two of you understood. Then life happened, stresses piled up and tension took all that away.
When the woman in the mirror looks like no fun to be around, how can you get back to that easy friendship you once enjoyed with your man? Never mind that you think you don’t have time for this silly stuff. It’s three easy steps to a better frame of mind that gets you back on top and in your power groove.
You’re in a bad mood for a reason–perhaps not the reason you think.
You have every right to your bad mood. Whip out a piece of paper–the back of the overdue electric bill envelope will do for starters–and pour out all your reasons.
Get into total gripe mode and flame everyone and everything that makes you mad. If you worry someone you’re supposed to love will see this brimstone stuff, you can burn it afterwards. Just go all out. Wallow in your misery. Write how and why your hair’s on fire and this is the end of the world as we know it.
Feel lighter somehow? Good. You scorched the paper with your words and now your body need release.
Move it or lose it.
Stomp around the house, go for a walk, do lunges, kicks and punches–anything that gets your blood moving. I don’t care what you do as long as you burn off those old tensions and sweat out the poisons you’ve been harboring, the poisons that hurt you and your relationship. Some of us don’t express our frustrations in words very well, but we can move. Get that heart rate up so endorphins kick in, those good old happy-feeling hormones that kick a bad mood right in the tail.
Tuneful toning up treatment for tantrums.
Power up. Crank up some music you like. If you’re marching around the house, play something that helps you strut your stuff like the guy who leads a parade with a big baton. Okay, if you feel ridiculous you can close the curtains so you don’t scare the neighbors. Then feel free to shake your backside to a silly piece of music you loved as a kid. Sing along, wave your arms, be the kid with ice cream.